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Types of Domestic Abuse

Types of Domestic Abuse

Many people live their lives without knowing they are the victim of some type of domestic abuse. Or maybe later on it becomes clear, but you were unaware it was happening at the time. Sometimes, though, it is clear the entire time. Many still are unaware that there are more than four types of domestic abuse. Aside from sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse, there are other types you should be aware of. The truth is, you are not alone. Your partner could be isolating you, threatening you, or abusing you by using money. But do know, that many others are also dealing with this, too.
 

You can do something, though.

Your life does not have to be devastated, and you don’t need to wait until it is too late. We know that it is emotionally and physically draining to be with an abuser. You can do something. Do also know that you have the support of the many millions who have been affected by domestic abuse. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States alone. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. Victims (the ones who do not become a murder statistic) may live a miserable life without finding a way out. Not only that, according to The National Domestic Violence Helpline those who lack the proper support will try on average, seven times to leave before staying away for good. 

The Many Types of Abuse

It’s important to know that there are ways out. As the victim in a volatile relationship, you know your abuser best. You know the lengths that they will go to make sure that they can control you. You may not feel you can safely escape or protect your loved ones.

 

Yet, you can’t let the fear of the unknown make you stay in an unhappy and possibly dangerous situation. Start by educating yourself on unhealthy abuse patterns. You need to first be aware of the following tactics that abusers use to abuse their victims:

The Many Types of Abuse

It’s important to know that there are ways out. As the victim in a volatile relationship, you know your abuser best. You know the lengths that they will go to make sure that they can control you. You may not feel you can safely escape or protect your loved ones.

 

Yet, you can’t let the fear of the unknown make you stay in an unhappy and possibly dangerous situation. Start by educating yourself on unhealthy abuse patterns. You need to first be aware of the following tactics that abusers use to abuse their victims:

1.

Using the victims children against them: Threats that they may not see their children again if they leave.

5.

Using the victims addiction(s) to control them: Coercing the victim to take pills, drink, or engage in other addictive behaviour to keep the victim dependent on them.

9.

Violating the victims privacy: logging into social media and going through messages, reading texts, demanding PIN Numbers or passwords.

13.

Using verbal abuse: Calling the victim names, withholding compliments,  undermining praise for the victim's successes, accusing, putting down or judging the victim.

17.

Using physical abuse: Punching, kicking, spitting, strangling, restraining, raping, hitting the victim with a weapon. Driving too fast, locking the victim in or out of the house, or blocking exits.

21.

Using educational level/attainment: The abuser may claim they're smarter and therefore superior because of their education. Or they could claim that their victim is acting smarter to belittle them.

2.

Using male privilege: A model of manhood, asserting dominance over their female victim.

6.

Using the victim's age: They may say the victim is too young to understand, or too old to find someone else.

10.

Limiting the victims independence: Making sure they're with the victim wherever they go.

14.

Using spiritual/religious beliefs: Ridiculing or insulting the victims religious or spiritual beliefs. Preventing the victim from practicing their beliefs/religion.

18.

Harassing the victim: The abuser will not leave their victim alone with text messages, call's, voicemails, showing up at their home or workplace uninvited.

22.

Using work or employment status: Convincing the victim they can't leave their abuse because they don't have a job, or they need to care for their abuser because the abuser doesn't have a job.

3.

Isolating their victim (A.K.A. Social Abuse): Not letting their victim visit with friends, family, others in the outside world.

7.

Using the victims ethnicity/race: The abuser may claim no one else will love the victim because of their ethnicity or race. They may insert hurtful racist comments.

11.

Humiliating the victim: Shamefully putting the victim down whenever they go out in public, making out the victim is the abuser, or online bullying/shaming.

15.

Using the victims pets: Threatening to harm the victims pets, mistreating, killing or neglecting their victims pets.

19.

Using or withholding food, nutrition or water: Threatening to keep food or beverages away from the victim, or coercing the victim with food or beverages to excessive consumption.

23.

Using finances: Calling welfare, limiting access to money, wasting money, not paying child support, controlling the money, closing bank accounts, making the victim account for spending.

4.

Using Manipulation (A.K.A Coercive Control): Minimizing their behaviour, lying by omission, diverting behaviour to talk their victim into doing or believing something.

8.

Using threats: Threatening harm, to take the kids, tell people the victim is a liar/an unfit parent/mentally unstable, etc.

12.

Using the victims health against them: The victim may have health problems that increase their dependency.

16.

Using the victims property: Using their home or vehicle as a reason to keep them around. Destroying sentimental items to assert dominance.

20.

Using or withholding sleep: Not letting their victim fall asleep, disturbing their sleep or making them sleep for longer periods of time.

24.

Reproductive Abuse: Making their victim use or not use contraception. Making the victim have or not have an abortion. Refusing to use contraception, lying about using contraception.

Types of Domestic Abuse

How can you make a real and lasting change?

It starts by taking a leap. You can do something. You can prepare yourself. Start off by talking to someone. Therapy is the first place to start and the most beneficial solution to the types of abuse listed above. How do we know? Our founder survived over 13 years of domestic abuse. She experienced first hand, every type of domestic abuse listed above. She was able to leave her abuser. She then rebuilt her life to become a motivational psychotherapist. She's also written a children’s book series

designed to help child survivors of domestic abuse.

Angela developed our psychotherapy treatment program. It is specifically created to help survivors of domestic abuse heal. With our treatment program, survivors can rebuild their lives, too. We provide sessions online, easing restrictions due to geological locations. We also provide one to one, group, and family therapy sessions. We believe that you can rebuild your life, too. So, please reach out to us so we can help you begin the rest of your life.

 

You are not alone in this

By beginning therapy, you can start making the changes vital for living your life. You have a happy and bright future in front of you. The light at the end of the tunnel does exist.

 

We stand to be a living, breathing, example of this. There is hope! You can start by downloading our free 32 page psychotherapy treatment workbook. We want you to become empowered by survivors like us, which is priceless.

 

Do not hesitate to reach out and come out of your abuse, living a happy life. You deserve it, and you can do it.

It’s time you took that next vital step to giving yourself the life you desire & deserve… and ultimately discover the greatest potential in you!

Let's get you started!